“When men fail, they try to rationalize”. Is it so???? Is the rule solely applicable to only one gender of the population or it is applicable to all the people, whether he is a male or a female, or for that matter why not a kid??? Don’t we all try to put a feasible reason for being a failure or doing something wrong?
I was thinking with the book in my hand which I have just finished, where in the author wanted to put across a point with the above tagline. “C’mon you can’t say like that”,I said to myself , as if I was the representative of the whole species he wanted to denigrate(Is it a strong word ,please excuse me if it sound so).But I felt it was nothing less than what I was feeling. Why should only men be blamed for, when we know what the truth is. And the truth is that we do pass buck every time whenever there is a chance that we will be put to scrutiny.
Isn’t our society built on this so called innate attitude of buck passing, since time immoral???Who knows since when this trait might have been built into our psyche? And the trait is so strong that even now also we don’t feel like giving it up even when we have a chance to turn things around.
Now also the exam systems in our educational institutes believe that vomiting some hard core facts & theories, which a student might have gulped the night before the exams day is the best way to judge whether he or she is the best student. Now tell me how many of these theories the student use whenever he or she goes out of that campus life where in he or she is cocooned in the secured campuses building those huge castles of success in the wind?? And how many of those students who earn gold medals become successful in their lives. I don’t mean to denigrate those studious guys, but don’t we see that we have a problem here where we feel that coming first in an exams is the way to salvation(what else do you say, when you see students staying over night & cramming of those voluminous books in order to get a good mark in exams).
Take for example another instance & this is quite interesting than the first one. Who does not how a marriage ceremony looks like? You have a guy & a girl(I don’t think still it is comprehendible for maximum of us to think of a guy getting married to a guy or a girl getting married to a girl, though exceptions always exist),whose parents get the privilege to search for a life partner for each of them. Mind you here I am talking about the main protagonist of the marriage ceremony, not any other one, but he or she does not have a voice of his/her. All the things are choreographed or staged according to what the parents decide. The only thing that is left for the bride or groom is to enact as they are told to do so. You may oppose me in this regard saying that time has changed. But for whom???? Has it changed for the brides & grooms???I don’t find & you are most welcome to point any changes you find. At least the guy & girl should get to know each other very well when they are going to settle down together. Shouldn’t they be given a chance to voice their own concern? Though I am privileged not to be treated like that, I have seen a lot of instances wherein marriage is staged which they called as arranged by parents.
I know one of my colleagues who was unfortunate to go through this kind of treatment. It so happened that even though he was not interested to get married his parents put a tremendous pressure on him to settle down with a .Since he was having a very decent job, there was a deluge of proposals for him from different quarters, & he was having such a hard time to spend his weekend. I remember him going to his home on Saturday & coming back & joining office on Monday morning. Visiting bride’s place duration also included in this time. So you can well imagine what a hard life he might be having. Now it so happened that he was damn confident about the fact that no girl would like to get married to him. So, blandly he used to tell every girl he came across that he would get married to her if she is willing & to his delight all the girls would refuse him. But unfortunately a girl he came across liked him so much that she gave her consent for my friend & date was decided for their engagement. Now the real fun happened after engagement, when this guy wanted to have some time with the bride to know her better. But girl’s family, being a conservative one would not allow the girl to go out with that guy. But the girl being a smart one used to cook up stories to come out in the evening .That continued for 1 year before these couple settled down together for a lovely married life. Now what I was amused is why the two people who have already given their consent for marriage can’t go out together before getting involved in a serious relationship. Is it a sin???Anyway I am not trying to glorify those insane activities that young people get involved in. But those insanity part apart can’t we progress to a more flexible society, where no unreasonable rules are not allowed.
Why to look at society, looking at ourselves also we find a lot of time we rationalize what we know should not be rationalized. Don’t we know when we pay something for getting something done in a govt. office we are doing a wrong thing. But ask all & sundry, the answer will be like ”Arey karna padta hai yaar.” & people who take that money would say “Kamal hai yaar.kaam aapka karenge,,, upar se gali bhi sunenge.Is ke liye aap thoda de denge to kuchh problem hoga kya???” Hmmmmm points well noted down saar.We don’t mind paying you par kaam thoda aur jaldi kar denge to bahut meherbaani hogi.
Take for instance why do we have so many private schools run by private groups mushrooming everywhere???Can’t we make the govt. Schools far better than what they are right now? No we won’t do because the school is run by govt. & the teachers are accountable to an abstract entity called government about which they don’t care at all.
The other day I was going through newspapers and the main news was about guys getting a foreign posting & shamelessly the headlines screamed about the plum posting they were getting abroad, with the dollar salary . How short people’s memory can be I was thinking. It is this affection for everything foreign that put us under British rules for 200 years, & we have got freedom from the foreign power only for last 50 years. No one cares more for what happened to that spirit of Indianness.You ask these people & answer will be same everywhere.”Huuuh I am not getting that scope for doing research & technical advance study here, and our country does not give prestige to people who are involved in research work”. Where from then we had Vikram Sarabhai, C.V.Raman, APJ Abdul Kalam,our honorable president who was a great scientist &mind you I am talking abt those periods when these people didn’t have fraction of facility that current generation has.
Anyway I have already cribbed about a lot of things which I should not have done..But what to do???That cribbing is in built to the psyche of our people I guess. Ohhho, I have started rationalizing irrationality J now.By the way you also do the same otherwise no one will recognize that you belong to that category of species called Homo sapiens
Tuesday, April 25, 2006
Monday, April 24, 2006
Prisoners Of Paradigm
"I am not having good sleeps,nowdays.Feeling as if I am going the other way,when some of our friends are having a jolly ride on their choosen path."I was just looking with a kiddish twinkle in my eyes to the person who was sitting in front of me.
No he was not a stranger to me.If you calculate the duration of time , we both have been together then there is no way you can tell the person as a stranger to me.We both were in the school for 7 years.Being the alumni of a boarding school, I didn't have any doubt about the knowledge I had about my friend.Anyway coming to the situation wherein we both were participants,I was wondering what he was talking about??Is it that, he is unsatisfied about his job or is it that he is not having a grt time with his family.People who are unmarried are said to have a jolly time I know.Why, I also search for the answer sometime.Though I have heard a lot of answers I don't see them as the proper ones.But here I was having someone in front of me who was more unhappy than someone who would have been married for more than 15 years.
Just out of curiousity & somewhat out of my callings to help him, I asked "Tell me what is it that is bothering you so much???" You are quite good at your job,you have been promoted so early,uncle & aunty both are happy with you,as they were telling the other day when I called them,Why you look so unhappy???"
He just wanted to avoid my question,but I kept on pestering .He gave up to my tenacity & bluntly came the reply,"I feel so and so is doing well,is earning much more than what I earn,got a chance to go abroad,etc. etc.",which were according to me not his own problems,but the prosperity of the other person who he was talking about, was the cause of his unhappiness.
Could not understand what I would say to him.Even I was not convinced about my honesty in this matter also. I also loose sleep sometimes over other people's prosperity.So kept myself mum & finished my lunch.Time was for me to come to my place leaving him at his building.
Being a sunny day the sun was shining above me with all force & since I had a summer cut ,the sun rays were piercing like neddles into my head.But that did not stop me from thinking why do we always attach our happiness to the other person's achievements and failures??? Can't we think of happiness as an absolute feeling rather than treating it as a comarative one.Why do we dream of other people's dreams?Can't we treat our dreams as the sole motivator for us to achieve something big.Read somewhere that "If you think about other people's dreams where is the time for your own dream??".Thinking about other people may make us success for a short time,because that envy will propel us to achieve something higher,but then there will be always someone else with whose achievements we will attach our happiness.
Life does not give us chance to live twice.If one second is lost it is gone forever.I don't believe in people who say time is multidimensional.For time being let us be very practical & accept the fact that time is unidimensional.It always moves forward.So why not to make every second a second for ourselves.Why can't we live it for our own????
So many thoughts & so less time to find answers....."Hey Bibhu whats up man??? How is your job going buddy???Did you see your manager abt your colleague who joined with you getting higher salary than you????",one of my close colleagues was asking.I just looked at him & thought to myself, aren't we all still imprisoned in that paradigm where everything is measured comparatively,every other day someone falls ill due to the only reason that someone he or she knows is having a good health.Life moves on ,so the society also. Who am I to question??? Let us all compare ourselves to each other & feel happy even if we are not.
No he was not a stranger to me.If you calculate the duration of time , we both have been together then there is no way you can tell the person as a stranger to me.We both were in the school for 7 years.Being the alumni of a boarding school, I didn't have any doubt about the knowledge I had about my friend.Anyway coming to the situation wherein we both were participants,I was wondering what he was talking about??Is it that, he is unsatisfied about his job or is it that he is not having a grt time with his family.People who are unmarried are said to have a jolly time I know.Why, I also search for the answer sometime.Though I have heard a lot of answers I don't see them as the proper ones.But here I was having someone in front of me who was more unhappy than someone who would have been married for more than 15 years.
Just out of curiousity & somewhat out of my callings to help him, I asked "Tell me what is it that is bothering you so much???" You are quite good at your job,you have been promoted so early,uncle & aunty both are happy with you,as they were telling the other day when I called them,Why you look so unhappy???"
He just wanted to avoid my question,but I kept on pestering .He gave up to my tenacity & bluntly came the reply,"I feel so and so is doing well,is earning much more than what I earn,got a chance to go abroad,etc. etc.",which were according to me not his own problems,but the prosperity of the other person who he was talking about, was the cause of his unhappiness.
Could not understand what I would say to him.Even I was not convinced about my honesty in this matter also. I also loose sleep sometimes over other people's prosperity.So kept myself mum & finished my lunch.Time was for me to come to my place leaving him at his building.
Being a sunny day the sun was shining above me with all force & since I had a summer cut ,the sun rays were piercing like neddles into my head.But that did not stop me from thinking why do we always attach our happiness to the other person's achievements and failures??? Can't we think of happiness as an absolute feeling rather than treating it as a comarative one.Why do we dream of other people's dreams?Can't we treat our dreams as the sole motivator for us to achieve something big.Read somewhere that "If you think about other people's dreams where is the time for your own dream??".Thinking about other people may make us success for a short time,because that envy will propel us to achieve something higher,but then there will be always someone else with whose achievements we will attach our happiness.
Life does not give us chance to live twice.If one second is lost it is gone forever.I don't believe in people who say time is multidimensional.For time being let us be very practical & accept the fact that time is unidimensional.It always moves forward.So why not to make every second a second for ourselves.Why can't we live it for our own????
So many thoughts & so less time to find answers....."Hey Bibhu whats up man??? How is your job going buddy???Did you see your manager abt your colleague who joined with you getting higher salary than you????",one of my close colleagues was asking.I just looked at him & thought to myself, aren't we all still imprisoned in that paradigm where everything is measured comparatively,every other day someone falls ill due to the only reason that someone he or she knows is having a good health.Life moves on ,so the society also. Who am I to question??? Let us all compare ourselves to each other & feel happy even if we are not.
Thursday, April 20, 2006
Wednesday, April 19, 2006
Live Your Dreams
"You know what???? I am not able to dream nowdays as I used to . I am scared whether the dreams I will see might be getting fullfilled or not??? I am really not in my elements nowdays."The voice came crackling over my mobile on a moonlit night when I was in deep conversation with her regarding her life's plans.
Suddenly the bitings of mosquitoes felt less painful than the pain I could find in that voice.I Was wondering why she was talikng like that??? She was such an educated girl, having a nice job & I felt everything was going right for her. And anyone who would be in her position would dream big things about the life.But here I am talking to someone who is scared to dream also,let alone dreaming big.
Out of sock & annoyance I didn't talk much,but told her something which I don't know how it came to my mind."You know dream is the language with which you talk to god and if you are scared to dream then you are scared of talking to god.Dream is the only way of communicating with the almighty.That is the only way god can reach you.Never ever be scared of talking to god". I feel excited when I talk about success & dreams of people.Though I can't be said as a dreamer I can't be said as very practical either.But I give more weightage to heart than mind.Anyway our conversation stopped there & we told good night to each other.
Came to bed & was wondering about what I said to her."C'mon you have become a counselor of sort",I told to myself."But don't you feel it is very theatrical to talk about dreams,heart over mind nowdays????Those have become stale, man.Talk something intresting dude if you want people to talk to you."
But to the core of my heart I feel dreams are a precious gift that has been bestowed upon human beings, who have the capability to make them come true.Can't say the same things about other animals though.The other day I overheard a discussion wherein one of the guest were saying "LIFE IS ALL ABOUT LUCK AND PLUCK,IF YOU CAN'T PLUCK, YOU CAN'T GET LUCK".What a beutiful way of telling the subtlety of being a successful person.Getting success is not about sitting idle at a single place & thinking that success will walk all it's path & reach you.It is all about getting up,walking the difficult terrain & converting evry oppertunity that comes on the way.And to get up & get going you need dreams to propel you.
So be a dreamer, beacuse it costs nothing to dream, but return may be more than what you might have expected for. Our dreams determine us as much as we determine our dreams.
P:S:-Dedicated to that someone who is the inspiration for this Posting.
Suddenly the bitings of mosquitoes felt less painful than the pain I could find in that voice.I Was wondering why she was talikng like that??? She was such an educated girl, having a nice job & I felt everything was going right for her. And anyone who would be in her position would dream big things about the life.But here I am talking to someone who is scared to dream also,let alone dreaming big.
Out of sock & annoyance I didn't talk much,but told her something which I don't know how it came to my mind."You know dream is the language with which you talk to god and if you are scared to dream then you are scared of talking to god.Dream is the only way of communicating with the almighty.That is the only way god can reach you.Never ever be scared of talking to god". I feel excited when I talk about success & dreams of people.Though I can't be said as a dreamer I can't be said as very practical either.But I give more weightage to heart than mind.Anyway our conversation stopped there & we told good night to each other.
Came to bed & was wondering about what I said to her."C'mon you have become a counselor of sort",I told to myself."But don't you feel it is very theatrical to talk about dreams,heart over mind nowdays????Those have become stale, man.Talk something intresting dude if you want people to talk to you."
But to the core of my heart I feel dreams are a precious gift that has been bestowed upon human beings, who have the capability to make them come true.Can't say the same things about other animals though.The other day I overheard a discussion wherein one of the guest were saying "LIFE IS ALL ABOUT LUCK AND PLUCK,IF YOU CAN'T PLUCK, YOU CAN'T GET LUCK".What a beutiful way of telling the subtlety of being a successful person.Getting success is not about sitting idle at a single place & thinking that success will walk all it's path & reach you.It is all about getting up,walking the difficult terrain & converting evry oppertunity that comes on the way.And to get up & get going you need dreams to propel you.
So be a dreamer, beacuse it costs nothing to dream, but return may be more than what you might have expected for. Our dreams determine us as much as we determine our dreams.
P:S:-Dedicated to that someone who is the inspiration for this Posting.
Tuesday, April 18, 2006
Searching For A Title
"Hmmmmm.... So????? What you are writing nowdays author???? I saw your blog & it looks pretty good though the writing looks unconventional." My friend asked me when we met over a tea today.Even though his words had some satirical inclination I secretly devoured my blog's visibility.Now days he is so pissed off with my boastings about my writing that even if it is not upto standard,he finds it very intresting.Arey marketing bol ke koi baat hai na & since I have some inclination towards that discipline of management I don't loose a single chance of marketing what else ;) ,the most unmarketable trait of mine which I dare to say is freelancing.Anyway I am grateful to some of my friends who find it of great taste but from my side I am not sure.
Anyway coming back to the original topic,I was wondering what I should tell.To avoid any embarrassment I asked him "Hey what is it that you find tasteful in my blog???" And predicatbly he told "what else,the title you give to your postings."I was wondering if he ever proceeded further from that one line heading of my post.Anyway at least he looks at them,I consoled my already bruised pride."helloooooo, You didn't tell me what is it that you are writing now?????" he just nudged me."Errrrrrr,I am writng something which I also don't know" I said to further avoid any embarrasment & have a good coffee.
"Arey what is this???? you must not give up hope yaar.You know every big thing has a small beginning & I know u are bound to become a great writer". " Ohhh god, as if my cup of woes were not enough this chap is encouraging me to be a good writer.Even this profession does not pay me much, & I will become an author , to hell with this chap". Just forced a wry smile on my face. Anyway to be very frank I was thinking what I will write today??? what will be the heading for my post??? Being a guy who is poor in innovative thinking( As one of my close colleagues say) I was wondering what I will tell him.
Should I tell him that I am writing something about the state of the affairs of the company where we both are working??? Should I tell him I am writing something about my experince in night club,though I have never visited any one yet????? What should be the topic??? I was kind of wondering if I have thought of something which I am not capable of. Errr I have got a topic. Let me write something about that girl in blue jeans & red tee-shirt.Let me think about an imaginary meeting with her & put my experience.Hmmm can I write ???? Yup why can't I?? I can very well put everything that goes inside me when I meet her into words & publish it.Let me see, she is not bad to look at also.That would make a good posting man.Something said to me from my inside.But being a shy guy I can never imagine to be with a girl like that. So leave that proposition,the other part of my mind advised to me :).C'mon you are running out of ideas as well as time,Say something to your friend yaar,my heart was screaming.
"Hmmmmm,hellooooo I have got the topic to write now " :). I said to myself in a joy that only a child can feel whenever it gets an object of desire which looked so difficult to get."I will write about my experience about my search for the better half which is now at the top of my mind.Thats it." Suddenly as if it was just sitting beside me to jump anytime, given a chance ,the other half my mind said, "What???? You are going to write about something which you have not done yet.Tell me how far have you gone in this to give you an authority to write about it".
"To hell with this.Isn't that a blessing in disguise for the people who get a better half without searching??This stupid is just poking it's dirty nose.Huuuuuh. I am going to write on this & thats it". I forced myself to confront the opposition.
But isn't it true what my opposing part of mind saying to me???I thought myself. I have not gone that far where I can put my experience into an enjoyable post.What is it that I will write????"Left that in the same hurriedness as I thought about that topic.
Out of frustration I was wondering about the fancy titles like "Live Your Heart Out","Loving & Living","Company That You Keep Defines The Person You Are","Let Your Dream Drives Your Passion" etc. etc..But that will be more than a posting boss.It will be like a boaring class where the boaring professor says soemthing which the pupil are not able to make anything out.
"Hello.Should we go??? I have already finished two cups of coffee including yours.Let me know when you write your next posting.No need to think so much about it.Kitna sochta hai re???Coffe pine ke liye aya tha ya yahan pe baith ke sochne. Anyway tell me kya hua teri salary hike ke bare mein. Kuchh baat ki managr se.Kar le yaar 4 saal hone ko hai & still you get less than a fresher in some companies.. Etc etc." My friend's words were whizzing beside me like a spray of bullets fired from an AK47 ,but I was drifting to my own world of hunting for a title for my next posting.
P:S:-Dedicated to Debula Bhai
Anyway coming back to the original topic,I was wondering what I should tell.To avoid any embarrassment I asked him "Hey what is it that you find tasteful in my blog???" And predicatbly he told "what else,the title you give to your postings."I was wondering if he ever proceeded further from that one line heading of my post.Anyway at least he looks at them,I consoled my already bruised pride."helloooooo, You didn't tell me what is it that you are writing now?????" he just nudged me."Errrrrrr,I am writng something which I also don't know" I said to further avoid any embarrasment & have a good coffee.
"Arey what is this???? you must not give up hope yaar.You know every big thing has a small beginning & I know u are bound to become a great writer". " Ohhh god, as if my cup of woes were not enough this chap is encouraging me to be a good writer.Even this profession does not pay me much, & I will become an author , to hell with this chap". Just forced a wry smile on my face. Anyway to be very frank I was thinking what I will write today??? what will be the heading for my post??? Being a guy who is poor in innovative thinking( As one of my close colleagues say) I was wondering what I will tell him.
Should I tell him that I am writing something about the state of the affairs of the company where we both are working??? Should I tell him I am writing something about my experince in night club,though I have never visited any one yet????? What should be the topic??? I was kind of wondering if I have thought of something which I am not capable of. Errr I have got a topic. Let me write something about that girl in blue jeans & red tee-shirt.Let me think about an imaginary meeting with her & put my experience.Hmmm can I write ???? Yup why can't I?? I can very well put everything that goes inside me when I meet her into words & publish it.Let me see, she is not bad to look at also.That would make a good posting man.Something said to me from my inside.But being a shy guy I can never imagine to be with a girl like that. So leave that proposition,the other part of my mind advised to me :).C'mon you are running out of ideas as well as time,Say something to your friend yaar,my heart was screaming.
"Hmmmmm,hellooooo I have got the topic to write now " :). I said to myself in a joy that only a child can feel whenever it gets an object of desire which looked so difficult to get."I will write about my experience about my search for the better half which is now at the top of my mind.Thats it." Suddenly as if it was just sitting beside me to jump anytime, given a chance ,the other half my mind said, "What???? You are going to write about something which you have not done yet.Tell me how far have you gone in this to give you an authority to write about it".
"To hell with this.Isn't that a blessing in disguise for the people who get a better half without searching??This stupid is just poking it's dirty nose.Huuuuuh. I am going to write on this & thats it". I forced myself to confront the opposition.
But isn't it true what my opposing part of mind saying to me???I thought myself. I have not gone that far where I can put my experience into an enjoyable post.What is it that I will write????"Left that in the same hurriedness as I thought about that topic.
Out of frustration I was wondering about the fancy titles like "Live Your Heart Out","Loving & Living","Company That You Keep Defines The Person You Are","Let Your Dream Drives Your Passion" etc. etc..But that will be more than a posting boss.It will be like a boaring class where the boaring professor says soemthing which the pupil are not able to make anything out.
"Hello.Should we go??? I have already finished two cups of coffee including yours.Let me know when you write your next posting.No need to think so much about it.Kitna sochta hai re???Coffe pine ke liye aya tha ya yahan pe baith ke sochne. Anyway tell me kya hua teri salary hike ke bare mein. Kuchh baat ki managr se.Kar le yaar 4 saal hone ko hai & still you get less than a fresher in some companies.. Etc etc." My friend's words were whizzing beside me like a spray of bullets fired from an AK47 ,but I was drifting to my own world of hunting for a title for my next posting.
P:S:-Dedicated to Debula Bhai
Monday, April 17, 2006
Something Out Of Nothing
Did the heading of my blog sound a cliche or it sounded something unconvevtional.Whatever it may be. Today I have thought of writing something which is contradictory to the general norm & views expressed by society & tell me if you find this to be unacceptable .But to be very frank I can't help it as this is an idea whose time has come & I think no one can stop it from being put into suitable words.
Don't know when this idea suddenly fell upon me out of blues "That nothing can be more powerful than nothing itself".It is like saying adding 1 to infinity.I guess I was quite influenced by the following incident which happened in my college.
It was an interview which was conducted for an MNC in campus & being a software company there was no limitation for the non comp science grads to apply for the job.Please be informed that even if our college is one of the top notch colleges in the country we didn't have that much exposure to the software world & it's intricacies. So a general question was thrownin interview to all & sundry who came from different branches other than comp. science, "WHY SHOULD WE RECRUIT YOU??".Since it was a very subjective question with no definite answer(Though people mugged up the answer & made the answer look like an objective one),it elicited very intresting answer from guys & girls alike.So here was a guy who out of smartness or whatever you may feel like when confronted with this question gave the following answer.
He took a plain paper & a written paper with a loads of formulae written over it.Then told the interviewer "Sir,see the plain paper. It is totally blank. You can write anything you want to write on it.But what about the paper with all these written materials.Can you write on it.Whatever is there it is already there.So we people from non comp science are like blank paper.Whatever you are going to train us will be imprinted in our mind.But it will be very difficult for the comp science grads to absorb as fast as we do."
No doubt that guy got selected.I happened to be the witness to that incident & after that I forgot about that as the time passed by.
But it cropped up again recently while chatting with a friend & I thought "is something more important or nothing"????.No I am not talking about materialistic pleasures.Forget that.We have a lot of other things to worry about other than materialistic pleasure(People who are overtly materialistic in their approach can execuse me ).In every other field don't we find how nothing is far far important than something.Start from nothing & you are bound to get more than something.See the canvass being more wider when you talk about nothing.No constraints at all for your imagination.Your imagination moves mike an well oiled wheel.You feel like a free bird.Innovation is at it's best when you start from nothing.I remeber reading soemwhere "The things which you see are temporal & the things which you don't see are eternal".Extend that to something & nothing.Something is tangible,you can feel it & you can touch it,you can see it.But nothing is intangible & you can't feel it & you can't touch it either.So which is eternal.Nothing or soemthing???
So time has come to give due recognition to nothing & let the old saying be replaced with "Nothing is better than something"
P:S:-Dedicated to all those who were the inspirations behind this writing
Don't know when this idea suddenly fell upon me out of blues "That nothing can be more powerful than nothing itself".It is like saying adding 1 to infinity.I guess I was quite influenced by the following incident which happened in my college.
It was an interview which was conducted for an MNC in campus & being a software company there was no limitation for the non comp science grads to apply for the job.Please be informed that even if our college is one of the top notch colleges in the country we didn't have that much exposure to the software world & it's intricacies. So a general question was thrownin interview to all & sundry who came from different branches other than comp. science, "WHY SHOULD WE RECRUIT YOU??".Since it was a very subjective question with no definite answer(Though people mugged up the answer & made the answer look like an objective one),it elicited very intresting answer from guys & girls alike.So here was a guy who out of smartness or whatever you may feel like when confronted with this question gave the following answer.
He took a plain paper & a written paper with a loads of formulae written over it.Then told the interviewer "Sir,see the plain paper. It is totally blank. You can write anything you want to write on it.But what about the paper with all these written materials.Can you write on it.Whatever is there it is already there.So we people from non comp science are like blank paper.Whatever you are going to train us will be imprinted in our mind.But it will be very difficult for the comp science grads to absorb as fast as we do."
No doubt that guy got selected.I happened to be the witness to that incident & after that I forgot about that as the time passed by.
But it cropped up again recently while chatting with a friend & I thought "is something more important or nothing"????.No I am not talking about materialistic pleasures.Forget that.We have a lot of other things to worry about other than materialistic pleasure(People who are overtly materialistic in their approach can execuse me ).In every other field don't we find how nothing is far far important than something.Start from nothing & you are bound to get more than something.See the canvass being more wider when you talk about nothing.No constraints at all for your imagination.Your imagination moves mike an well oiled wheel.You feel like a free bird.Innovation is at it's best when you start from nothing.I remeber reading soemwhere "The things which you see are temporal & the things which you don't see are eternal".Extend that to something & nothing.Something is tangible,you can feel it & you can touch it,you can see it.But nothing is intangible & you can't feel it & you can't touch it either.So which is eternal.Nothing or soemthing???
So time has come to give due recognition to nothing & let the old saying be replaced with "Nothing is better than something"
P:S:-Dedicated to all those who were the inspirations behind this writing
Sunday, April 16, 2006
Is there such an omnipotent force we call GOD
Being a Saturday was lazying around on my bed at 7 O clock in the evening when phone buzzed. I wonder if we had really taken away the privacy of people by giving them the newest technologies.Mgr's voice on the other side really woke me up from my thoughts. Took some time to get into normal mode though it was very short & I doubt whether my mgr on the other side would have known it.It was a small request from her side to come on Sunday (which is today) to office & initiate some patches for a bank which is having some critical issues.I guess people who are in Microsoft will be better knowing what that means ;) No pun intended.By the way it means the user of the application asks for a fix to the devoloper when the application does not work properly.
Got up early in the morning & took the public bus to office.A loads of thoughts were clouding my head & I was praying god not to have a bad time in the office.Suddenly out of blues I was wondering is there something called a heaven which is an organisation where we have someone called creator who writes programs which are called human beings.But what about the programs which go haywire & something has to be done for that. Say I am a program & I am not able to function properly due to the external negative forces like stress,workload,not having a good time etc. etc..What happens during that. Do we have something called a patch mechanism wherein we can ask the creator to send a patch for us which once applied will be helpful for us to function properly.Won't it be much better if we have such a mechanism??? Imagine what the world would be when we all behave as we are made to be.Everywhere peace will be prevailing. Everyone will be happy & prosperous working to their full potential.
If such a mechanism is not there then how do we find a lot of people amidst this world full of sorrows are so cheerful & happy.So this can't be ruled out that there is not a mechanism like the one which I have mentioned earlier.So what that meachanism would be.Then as if to answer my question an inner voice told me,be a bit cautious when you look around & you will be amazed to see that there exists a link between god & you where you both are communicating with each other every second.Whenever you request for a patch, it suddenly arrives.But the only thing we don't understand is the way to communicate our problem to him in a proper way.Today we will be thinking of some problems ,tomorrow we will have some other problems.If we don't communicate how does the almighty know what you want & to communicate that you need a clear heart devoid of all ill feelings.Then only that message will be transmitted properly & you will be amazed to know how fast the help arrives.
So cheer up,stay alive every moment & don't have any ill feelings. Then you can have a life without any problem as there will be a hand everytime to give solutions anytime and everytime you have any problems.
GOD BLESS
Got up early in the morning & took the public bus to office.A loads of thoughts were clouding my head & I was praying god not to have a bad time in the office.Suddenly out of blues I was wondering is there something called a heaven which is an organisation where we have someone called creator who writes programs which are called human beings.But what about the programs which go haywire & something has to be done for that. Say I am a program & I am not able to function properly due to the external negative forces like stress,workload,not having a good time etc. etc..What happens during that. Do we have something called a patch mechanism wherein we can ask the creator to send a patch for us which once applied will be helpful for us to function properly.Won't it be much better if we have such a mechanism??? Imagine what the world would be when we all behave as we are made to be.Everywhere peace will be prevailing. Everyone will be happy & prosperous working to their full potential.
If such a mechanism is not there then how do we find a lot of people amidst this world full of sorrows are so cheerful & happy.So this can't be ruled out that there is not a mechanism like the one which I have mentioned earlier.So what that meachanism would be.Then as if to answer my question an inner voice told me,be a bit cautious when you look around & you will be amazed to see that there exists a link between god & you where you both are communicating with each other every second.Whenever you request for a patch, it suddenly arrives.But the only thing we don't understand is the way to communicate our problem to him in a proper way.Today we will be thinking of some problems ,tomorrow we will have some other problems.If we don't communicate how does the almighty know what you want & to communicate that you need a clear heart devoid of all ill feelings.Then only that message will be transmitted properly & you will be amazed to know how fast the help arrives.
So cheer up,stay alive every moment & don't have any ill feelings. Then you can have a life without any problem as there will be a hand everytime to give solutions anytime and everytime you have any problems.
GOD BLESS
Wednesday, January 25, 2006
Expectations !!!!!!!!!!!!! The way of life
Life is all about collecting the memories of the past on the shore of the present & expecting the sea of the future to bring something which will be more valuable than whatever we have till now. Life is all about expectations. Isn't it???? Mankind survives on hope & expectations. We simply don't come to work because we are paid for it but beacuse we expect something good will happen if we will work.Nothing gives as much pleasure as something which happens according to our expectations. When it comes to the matter of expectations even an adult behaves like a kid. Have you seen how a kid becomes happy whenever it's expectations are met. Samething happens with an adult also.Ruminating on the expectaed result & the actual result is the sustenance that carries forward the life.Don't ask me why we expect. We expect beacause we have to expect & that is the truth.So keep expecting & keep up doing what you love to do becaue that is how we can give our expectations a rigid shape which will convert it from intangible to tangible.Remember blessed are those who keep on expecting . fail in their persuit & then try again.
Thursday, December 08, 2005
Writing for the sake of writing
Today got up early.But conversation between Bill & NRN in the paper made me to sleep again.So had to run to bus stop to catch the 9 O clock bus. Was not in my proper mood today in the office. Not much work to do. Some 3 issues are still pending & I have to complete them before this weekend. Was saddened to read one mail in BB which was about contributing something towards a colleague's operation. According to company policy he can only get 2.5 lakhs.But the amount was coming to be 7.5 lakhs. I don't know why company can't go out of it's way to help it's employees during their time of need. It really hurts when you see one of the best work places to work behaving in such a rude way.Anyway life moves & companies also.So it is better not to expect :(
Got to go easrly today. Have my mgmt exam.s coming up this January.So have to study.
Got to go easrly today. Have my mgmt exam.s coming up this January.So have to study.
Tuesday, December 06, 2005
blah blah blah blahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
2day was late to ofice. Had to bring vegetables for home.So had to go with Sahashanka. On the way got to see a man totally in a wretched conditions.Felt so bad looking at him.Is it some kind of punishments that god gives all or is it the kind of life we bring upon ourselves.Can't say as I am not a philosopher.Sometimes I feel like extending a helping hand. But don't know what happens when I reach office.Sitting inside the cubicle writing those codes, I feel great that I contributed somrthing to the buipliftment of the word. But is it the purpose of living.Sometimes I fel like leaving gthe job & going to a place where I won't have any identity & I wll be lost in theis world,but can't do that as parents & family are waiting for me at home. At the end it matters how much I could be of help to them. I don't know whather all these things that are written & told by saints are trace. Don't we have a responsibility to the people who did something to us.Then where is the point is leaving this all behind. I feel those people are great who living in this earthly things live like a saint. In that respect my ambition is to become like true human being.Avinash might have felt bad today,but can't help it.had to send the status to the bank otherwise Lakshmi my mgr. would have felt bad today as it was urgently reqd. Nothing more to write. Sitting in that dingy cubicle throughout the day I am feeling like I have lost all my creativity.Anyways nowdays I have become a big fan of sudoku. It takes my mind away from all these things that I am goin through.Got to go.Have to read for my exam.s also.
Sunday, December 04, 2005
Nothing official about it
It has been 3 years since I joined my organisation.Same place,same system,same cubicle.Sometimes I feel like I am sitting at the back bench of a theater & the moments of life are being plyaed out on a stage in front of me.Don't know whether I am missing out something which is called change.
Sunday, November 27, 2005
Get out & start Living
I vivdly call that day when I met one of my friends.That was when I came to Bangalore for the first time on the job. I happened to join my first job in an IT organisation.So as usual parents' expectations were high & to add to my woes I was very slow in catching up the process at the organisation.so I was totally in a mess. Since by nature I am shy I could not mingle with people that easily.Even my roommates were frustrated at my attitude. One day he called me up to his place & we chatted about our career & how life is moving & how many girlfriends we have(U know this is the first question u are asked when you meet a long lost friend).Slowly I veered our discussions towards my worrys & woes.He tried to avoid as much as possible,because we just wanted to enjoy the time we are together.Suddenly he told me in a calmer voice."Bibhu what do you think??? You have only prblems. no one else???Start to look around & you will find every one has his cup of woes which is over brimming. But successful & happy are those people who learn to live with their difficulties & make the most of the life that has ben bestowed upon them by the almighty.Can't you see how lucky you are to be in the creamy layer of our society???Where people arre lucky enough to have a single meal for a day you have a job that pays handsomely,that makes you learn everyday,that challenges your intelligence sometimes.What else do you need????"I felt like a suddeen awakening.Is it the case???Why can't I se the sparkling light of the lightening in the darkness of the night. Am I missing out something everyday ????From that day I started telling myself in the morning "WHATEVER HAPPENS TODAY,LET IT HAPPEN. I PROMOSE TO LIVE THE DAY AS CHEERFULLY AS POSSIBLE,BECAUSE LIFE GIVES US A SINGLE CHANCE TO LIVE.IT MAKES US LEARNED EVERYDAY BY GIVING US EXPERIENCE.NO EXPERIENCE IS BAD OR GOOD. EVERY EXPERIENCE IS A VALUABLE ONE.SO DON"T BE AFRAID TO GO OUT AND START LIVING.BECAUSE BY THAT ONLY WE CAN KNOW WHAT LIVING IS ALL ABOUT "
Friday, November 25, 2005
Forgetting the way to live
Recently I met two of my friends. One was already into the job with me for the last three years. The other one recently joined my organisation & was hardly 1 month old.He came to visit mje some time back & my god what an enthusiasm he displayed.Bubbling with confidence he told me that he will stick to the organisation for the first one year & if he is not satisfied with the kind of job he will get or do then he will switch over or do some higher studies. Our talk was full of life & plans about how he will go about the job & why he likes this profession & all those kind of talks which a kid talks when it gets a new dress to wear. The other friend I sometimes go to tea with & our talks are full of the petty politics that are being played in our organisations, about someone who has gone on site & stayed there for last two years & still we are in the same place for the last two years. Sometimes it feels so boaring that in stead of sipping coffee & getting refreshment I feel like going to a lonely place & sit there calmly without thinking anything abt the job I am doin & the kind of profession I am into. See the contrasting features. One is just a new born kid on the block & the other one is a so to say in the youth of his career.When the person should be more energetic in his or her youth the opposite seems to be happening. Sometimes I wonder if it is the price ine has to pay for being in a profession which pays more & expects the same in the quanity of job also. Why can't we have organisations where we nurture the energy of the new born kids & utilize that to grow the organisations as well as the individuals??Why do we allow the kid to become a frowning adult?? The day we realise that & our organisations become aware of this on that day we will have people who will ride the horse of enthusiasm to conquer the world
Wednesday, November 23, 2005
Be worthy of your creation
Every single nindividual is a great creation of the almighty.Don't we know how painful it is to write a bug free program whyich will give us some output which we desire.Even when we know the outcome of the program we make a lot of mistakes to write the program.Imagine the difficulties that the creator faces to create these large no of human beings & that to the behaviour of the final entity is unknown.It is wonderful to think sometime if we could have known beforehand how we will behave or for that matter if every human being is passed a template of the activities that he is going to do & their outcomes.How great it will be to know how will we look and feel when we turn 50 mor for that matter 60.People will be knowing beforehand how their life will be.We can reduce the crime rate for the criminals will be knowing in advance that they will be commiting some unwanted things..But keeping aside these feel good factors dosn't this thesis decrease the charm and enjoyment that comes with life.Just for a second think ho would you behave if you know thye result of an activity that u r goin to do.Ther will be no motivation & also there will be lethargic & laziness all around.So it is better to live as it is now & savour the uncertainties that comes along with being alive.Let bus try to prove our worth to the almighty who has taken so much pain to create each one of us.
Tuesday, November 22, 2005
Life is beautiful,But you never know when it throws nasty surprises
I remember one phrase "LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL".Any doubt regarding this??? No, not at all. But does this beauty last forever or it depends on the way you look at life. A soldier facing the bullet of enemies in the war field will surely give a kick, if this line is told to him.A person sitting with a huge bank balance & good house will always give an affirmative answer if the question is asked whether life is beautiful or not?? So see these are two indiaviduals who go through same cycles of life. Taking birth,living in a society,then facing death. But their response varies from one end to the other end.One thing is true for sure. Life is a celebration of experiences. No experience is good or bad in life. Every experience should be celebrated. Also one thing must be remembered here."Life gives only one chance for us to live". Then why to waste it in cribbing & thinking about the failures that we face sometime.It is already agreed that life is full of surprises,but isn't it enjoyable to face them. Can you feel the excitement when we were kids & had to appear for the tests.The excitement was palpable inside the school campus.But there was a difference between the pupil who was prepared to face any eventuality & pupil who didn't prepare well.So the student who prepared well had the last laugh & he was truly enjoying the excitement.But the other one who was less prepared didn't have the chance to do the same & was anxious. So to face the nasty surprises that life throws at us let uis be prepared & enjoy them. LET US SAVOUR LIFE BECAUSE IT IS TRULY A DESSERT
Sunday, November 20, 2005
How much money does one require to have a cover over his head
Was searching for the right answer today.Got up early in the morning.Felt quite better today. Was down with cold since last two days.Thank god I am feeling much better to write something.Went to see a flat in the evening which was due to the sole reason that Debula bhai wanted to have a look at the site where Satya bhai had already booked one.Mama, me & the other two rode on a bike to the place which was two kms from Marathalli junction.My god what a price to pay for having a flat of 900 sq ft carpet area.30 lakhs approximately. No idea whether I will be able to buy a flat here till I am there in Infosys. Already mother & father had given their consent to move out of the village.Came back disheartened formthe site. After dinner surfed the net to find a suitable land or flat to buy in BBSR or Bangalore. Got some lists. Let me try my luck tomorrow. It is already 12 O clock & mama has slept.Anyway I will let you know what happenes.
Wednesday, November 16, 2005
Coding and uncoding
Back after a hiatus of two days when I was not able to think anything beyond codes. Now also I am not able to think anything beyond that.But I have taken it to myself to be disciplined at least in maintaining this small diary of mine.So I will write something whatever comes to my mind.Nothing important though.Coming back to code does not our life seems to be a cryptic code & success people are those who skillfully decode them with the help of the clue they get from their surroundings.Today there was a good discussion on bulletin board abt the great books & someone from the crowd wrote that 'ALCHEMIST' didn't have any stuff to be considered as a great read. I could not know why :( Was thinking of giving him a good answer but the difficulties in understanding thre code kept me busy throughout the day.Sometimes I really wonder is life all about going to office at 8 O clock in the morning & coming back at 9 O clock in the night,sipping that bad coffee & having those junk foods they sell at a premium because people working in IT are considered to be rich. Huh they had not seen my Bank balance I guess :). I badly need a break from all these. Where to go ???? Let me think.No where to go . people have changed bwith time & being a social animal we all have to adjust to this kind of living.So let me go & prepare for another day of circus.
Sunday, November 13, 2005
Life And It's Intricacies
Man, can you imagine getting up early on a sunday morning & getting ready for the class when you should be sleeping nicely.Felt like shouting to god today as I had to do the same. If i would have known about all these harassments would not have joined MBA course. Still went to class with eyes loaded with sleep.Class was good in the sense that faculty teaches at the top of his voice which like a monster keeps the sleep away. Had my biz communication class today. I enjoy this class . You know whyb?????bcoz I get to know a lot of one liner. Like today :) what was that he told ?????Yup...... got it . "IF LIFE WOULD HAVE BEEN EASY EVERYONE WOULD HAVE BEEN A WINNER".Hmmm has a lot of validity. But is it the case ???? Do we feel that life is easier. Not at all. Life with all it's intricacies seems to be more difficult than the E=MC2 formula.The plight of an adult is more than that of a std. 1 child who has been recently introduced to algebra & has been asked in the exam to find the solution of a quadratic equation.The child can make nistakes & still reapper the exam but what about the individual who commits a mistake in the life. Does he or she get a second chance???Nopes . Remember life does not give a second chance. What we do is impromptue and once a mistake is committed it is done. We can learn that & move ahead & reapply that learning once we face that kind of situation. But I wonder if we face the same situation again and again in life.Huh heavy philosophy.... :). What to do ??? I have taken to Krishnamurthy's readings in a big way. Huh. Have to initiate my appraisal tomorrow. It is already 12 O clock & mama is tensed. What to do ??? I am also helpless. Let me c if I can help him out.Shashanka is bindaas guy. Had his share of enjoyment in evening & now he is literally snoring.got to go.
Saturday, November 12, 2005
Management & Life
Had my mgmt. class in Jyothi Nowas College .What was the topic??? Let me recall :( yup it was about strtegic planning.Class was Okie. But the prof was getting tired while teaching :). Was wondering whether these funda.s are applicable to an organisation only. The strategic planning is about making a long term plan for an organisation (Kep It Simple Stupid).But can we apply these same things to how we manage our life.After all our life is an organisation . Right???? But how many of us plan for life. Don't we take life as it comes.... In morning I had a discussion with mama how do we manage our life ???? Do we need to take each day at a time or we keep planning for the future every time. Morning I had a realisation as I woke up from the bed that 'YOU GET OUT OF YOUR LIFE WHAT YOU ARE WORTH OF'. What an intresting line .... & amazingly it is true ....Life is all about getting what we desrve.. But does not that creates unnecessary confusion about who will decide the worth of us ??? & once decided is it constant ?? Can you imagine the confusion??? So better to take the life as it comes. Not to worry about the result but to do the duty in such a way that we feel satisfied that we have done the job to the perfection.
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